When Life Gives you B.S.

I have a problem. With expectations.  People always say don't go into any situation with expectations about how things will go, or how you want a man to act or treat you.  If you don't expect anything you won't get hurt.

Well I think that's bullshit.

I've done both, expected prince charming to walk through my door, be as considerate as ever, with flowers in his hand and compliments on his lips.  Disappointed.  I've also not expected things to go good or bad, not expected the door to be opened for me or to ever meet his mother.  Disappointed.

I think the problem lies in the fact that as you get to know someone, no matter how you go into things, you learn their behavior, and base your expectations on that.  If he acts nice and goes out of his way for you, treats you well enough for him to meet your family, and always pay for dinner, you begin to expect that all around.  But then he says he's not ready for a relationship....

I forget what I'm getting at (wayyy too pms right now) but the point is expectations always screw you over.  If he acts like a gentleman and acts like he wants to be with you, chances are he wants to play the game but can't commit (for one reason or another).  If he treats you terribly and doesn't give a rats butt about your feelings, chances are you'll be better off dropping his ugly behind off at the nearest bus stop.


Main point here: I have a MAJOR problem with guys who are all nice but not ready for a relationship.  DON'T involve my feelings if you have no intention of returning them.  DON'T treat me well and do all the right things if you're not sure that this will go anywhere.  Just don't.

END OF RANT.